Intimate relationships can seem like such a mystery, especially if you grew up in a family where connection and communication were neither modeled nor taught. We all sense the deep and rich possibility of meaningful connection and yet the means of attaining and maintaining connection can be elusive. If we only know that which we have seen, we may set our sights too low and keep our strategies too simple. If one-ness is our goal, then we must learn to think differently about our relationships and how we grow them.